As Maneesha shared in a post earlier,her life’s experiences has only strengthened her roots ,now that we all owe it to ourselves to be the best version of us,yes “happiness is an inside job”:):) and the ripple effects it has are contagious .
There are three practices that she consistently follows, to discover the treasure at the heart of those painful emotions.
Here is where..
The Source of Pain
Most difficult emotions have their roots in events that happened long ago. You experienced a strong emotional reaction to a challenging situation or relationship, and you didn’t have the skills or support to feel it and let it move through you. Instead, it got stuck, lodged in your mind and body, creating layers of contraction and armoring as the years go by.
Fast forward to now, and here you are, desperately wanting relief so you can be at peace. This is your invitation:
to discover the treasure at the heart of pain.
Three Blessed Steps
Honor this process that returns you to yourself – your sane and shining self that is not veiled by the past.
First Step: Recognition
First, pause from all the turmoil and recognize that an emotional reaction consists of two experiences: a story line that goes through your mind and physical holding in your body. Whenever you are caught in an emotion, be curious about your experience, and this is what you will discover.
It’s always the same: thoughts and physical sensations, a repetitive story and physical contractions, consumed in your mind and felt in your body.
Second Step: Turning Away
Now, put the story aside. You don’t have to get rid of it, you only need to see the futility of continuing to think it over and over. I mean, haven’t you gone over the same thoughts millions of times? Have they brought you relief yet? In fact, this is why
you feel stuck.
You will never find peace by repeating the story in your mind. Never. And once you feel your way into this truth, you start turning away from thoughts every time they appear. It doesn’t matter how often they arise or how much they try to seduce you into thinking they are true or important. Your job is this: to stop feeding useless stories with your attention, every time.
Once I really got this point, everything started to shift.
Do you want to be happy? Stop acting as if your stories are true. Don’t feed them, and here you are, so fresh and alive!
Third Step: Turning Toward
If you aren’t going to think about what happened, where does your attention go? This part may be tricky, but hang in there with me.
In every moment, you are aware. If you are breathing, you are aware that you are breathing. If you are crying, you are aware that you are crying. You can’t possibly have any experience without also being aware of it. You have been aware of everything that has ever happened to you – that is the constant. How could it be otherwise?
If you bring your attention not to things that you are aware of, like thoughts and feelings, but to the awareness itself, you will make some interesting discoveries.
ideas, feelings, sounds, sensations, sights – all of these appear and, at the same time, you are aware.
Awareness is still and spacious. Things just are, no matter what arises in it. It can’t be disturbed.
Being aware is infinitely patient and utterly accepting.
Putting It All Together
We already have seen that an emotional reaction consists of a story and physical sensations and that feeding stories will quickly take you down the road to suffering. But what about physical sensations?
Undigested emotions from the past get stuck in the body and appear as physical contraction and holding. We tense up on so many levels to protect ourselves from the world. And
this is what needs to be liberated.
Grounding yourself as awareness and turning away from thoughts, notice the sensations in your body, and let them be. Let them surface from the recesses of your cells to be seen in the light of awareness. Simply be aware, with great kindness, but don’t do anything.
As you feel the sensations, give them time to come out of hiding, and you will eventually notice they aren’t solid. As you welcome them, they begin to not even feel real. Every time you find a sliver of space in a contraction or a tiny hole in the armor, this is awareness shining through.
Over time, simply be aware. Let sensations be, and they will barely cause a ripple…
This article was contributed by Maneesha Ramakrishnan ,and this post is dedicated to her !
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